With most physicians ill prepared to talk about sexual health and many patients too embarrassed or ashamed to broach the subject, sex has become this thing we don’t discuss in the examining room.
“𝘚𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘥𝘰𝘤𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘴 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘯𝘶𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱, 𝘦𝘹𝘦𝘳𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘦 — 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦: 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺,” 𝘴𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯 𝘋𝘢𝘤𝘬𝘦𝘳, 𝘢 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘩𝘺𝘴𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘚𝘢𝘭𝘦𝘮, 𝘖𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘰𝘯, 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘻𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘯 𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦. “𝘞𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.”
𝗦𝗲𝘅 𝗶𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄. 𝗠𝘆 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗜 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝘅𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝘂𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘀. 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼 𝗜 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗻𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗹?
Dacker often asks her older patients: How is the quality of your intimacy? Is it what you want it to be? Have you noticed a shift as you’ve gotten older and what does that mean to you?
“𝘕𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺, 𝘢𝘴 𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺,” 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘺𝘴. “𝘐 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘳𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘣𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦, 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘺𝘣𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘯’𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦.”
Dacker, who teaches courses on how to be a sex-positive health care provider, suggests exploring each other in new ways: dancing, eye gazing, washing one another while bathing, giving hands-free coconut oil massages using your stomach, arms and chest. She’s also a fan of self-pleasure.
“𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘪𝘯𝘷𝘰𝘭𝘷𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘰𝘳𝘨𝘢𝘴𝘮 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴,” 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘥𝘥𝘴. “𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦.”
Much love and blessings,
Evelin
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